Raising Kids, Queerly Redefined
Parenthood doesn’t come with a manual, but for queer parents, we often find ourselves flipping through someone else’s story, one built on assumptions that don’t reflect our lives. So, we rewrite the narrative. And that’s where the joy comes in.
Our families are built with intention. They are woven from community, chosen love, fierce determination, and sometimes, incredible struggle. Whether we became parents through IVF, adoption, surrogacy, co-parenting, or other paths, we’ve had to fight, sometimes quietly, sometimes loudly for our right to be seen, supported, and celebrated.
Being a queer mom means reimagining what “normal” looks like. It’s fielding questions with patience and pride. It’s navigating assumptions and awkward silences. It’s showing up authentically in spaces that weren’t built for us. We show up because we know our presence matters. We show up because our families matter.
We raise our kids with love, yes, but also with truth. We teach them that identity is something to be honored, not hidden. That family is chosen, created, and ever-evolving. That love is expansive and transformative, not confined by gender or roles. Our children grow up seeing what it looks like to live boldly, love fully, and exist unapologetically.
And while it’s not always easy, there’s power in this path. We are not just raising kids; we’re raising a new generation with a broader definition of love, identity, and belonging. We’re showing them how to live truthfully, love fiercely, and create spaces where everyone can thrive.
If you asked me how my wife and I approach parenthood as two moms, I’d tell you it’s been a journey full of challenges. We’ve faced our fair share of struggles, but we don’t let those obstacles define who we are or the family we’ve built.
Instead, we choose resilience. We choose joy.
Each day, we show up with intention, not just for ourselves, but for our child. One of the most powerful things we can do is normalize our family dynamic, so they grow up knowing that love is what makes a family.
So, here’s to every queer mom (and all queer parents) creating space where there was none. Your love is powerful, your story is needed, and your family is a beautiful act of resilience.
Written By: Anne-Marie
